Dupa un an de Headway am decis ca app-ul nu este pentru mine, dar din cele 70 de carti sumarizate ascultate, am ramas cu o serie de idei pe care le pun si aici, spre aducere aminte:
Recovery: Freedom from Our Addictions - Russell Brand
“Addiction happens when natural biological needs are prioritized to the point of destructiveness”
“Your ego works with the substance you are addicted to.”
“identify discomfort in these areas:
• Pride— what you think others should think about you
• Self-esteem — what you think of yourself
• Personal relations —how you interact with others
• Ambitions — your dreams and goals
• Security — What you need to survive
• Finances — How much money you have and how it affects your feelings”
“The truth is that defective behaviors can seem like a good escape, but they only hide the real problems a person is experiencing.”
“my thinking is limited as it takes place within the context of my own knowledge, which is bounded on all sides by ignorance. I am open to the possibility that beneath my thoughts, my feelings, the invisible field that holds together my material being are other forces that are likely beyond human comprehension and the dualistic models, and space/time framework through which we understand reality. Within this limitlessness all is possible”
“The key is to identify the areas you may struggle with and then create an ideal that helps to counter that. If you are a hopeless codependent, you may need to have an idea that facilitates independence or self-sufficiency.”
Single On Purpose - John Kim
“There are more single people in the US now than ever before — 45.2% of the adult population”
“Reconnecting with your body means accepting it first. It’s a beautiful machine, not a mere aesthetic or sexual object. Most people criticize themselves, seeing how they look from the outside. Instead, try noticing your body from within, and the insecurities will fade gradually.”
“there’s a way out; people follow similar patterns, and you must find yours. Do you assume someone else’s feelings? Do you take the all-or-nothing route? Or do you always jump to conclusions? Determine how you overthink and what triggers your negative thinking patterns.”
12 Months to $1 Million - Ryan Daniel Moran
“Millions have failed in business but succeeded as enhancers, helping others grow their business. This goes to say some people will only find success and fulfillment working for others.”
Secrets of Six-Figure Women - Barbara Stanny
“Many women were raised to accept any condition they found themselves in; this was seen as good behavior.”
“Raise your fees even when your brain tells you you do not deserve it; you do. Think big and then increase it again. But you can't do this correctly without doing your homework. Learn the market value of your service and adjust your rates accordingly. Your salary may not earn you six figures, but your bonuses can.”
“The biggest challenge is not making the money, but managing the money”
“Claiming your power means you are going against the norm, and not everyone in your life will be happy about this. This fear of abandonment is why we do not fully embrace our power.”
The Mastery of Love - Don Miguel Ruiz
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
“If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.”
Think Again - Adam Grant
“We won't use Windows 95 but will stick to ideas we formed in 1995. ”
The Dumb Things Smart People Do with Their Money - Jill Schlesinger
“Every month, smart people need to review their bank account and credit card statement, think about their financial life, pending purchases of financial products, reflect on their behaviors around investments and their aging parents’ financial situation.
Quarterly, smart people should review their investment and retirement accounts and change all the passwords on their financial accounts.
Yearly, smart people should review their investments, perform a tax audit, secure their identity, and check in on college planning for their kids.
Every 3 years, smart people should review their homeowner and life insurance policies and review their estate plan.”
One Million Followers - Brendan Kane
“Follow these three stages:
1. Hypothesis — theoretically formulate your social networks’ format, topics, and stories.
2. Testing — try different options and collect data on the result.
3. Reversal — if your hypothesis is confirmed, invest in it; if not, change it.”
“create content that people will actively respond to.”
The Fast Diet - Dr. Michael Mosley, Mimi Spencer
“mice who eat most of the day developed high cholesterol, high blood glucose, and liver damage. Whereas, mice who ate at intervals of 8 hours put on far less weight and suffered much less liver damage.”
“mice put on intermittent fast often go up to 20 months without any detectable signs of dementia”
“If a man has 25% body fat, he would be considered overweight. However, a woman with 30% body fat is considered overweight.”
“Michael started with a four-day fast and proceeded to intermittent fasting of two days in a week.”
“Some will prefer to go on two consecutive days of fasting, while some will like to split the days and have non-fast days in between”
“On your fasting day, you are expected to take not more than 500 or 600 calories”
“Some will prefer to fast till 11:00 a.m, take a meal, and continue the fast till 7:00 p.m.”
“Some foods that help you achieve the right calorie size with a feeling of satisfaction include: steamed white fish, skinless chicken, low-fat dairy products, prawns, tuna, tofu, nuts, seeds, pulses, legumes, eggs, citrus fruits, herbs, and spices.”
“Research has found that modern humans tend to mistake a whole range of emotions for hunger.”
“Sometimes that feeling you have is anger, disappointment, sadness, deprivation, etc. You are hungry, but this time not for food.”
“Choose to do something else rather than eating. You can take a walk, phone a friend, play a game, sing, or dance. Be assured that after a few weeks of practicing Intermittent Fasting, your sense of hunger will diminish.”
“When you reach your desired weight, you need to switch to the Maintenance mode of fasting. This mode involves reducing your fast day to just one.”
“The headaches you feel during fast comes from dehydration, and you can overcome this by taking low-calorie drinks but not alcohol.”
“Exercising while fasting makes your body burn a greater percentage of fat for fuel. You tend to achieve better results”
The 1-Page Marketing Plan - Allan Dib
“Amplifying a blank message through marketing and reaching 10,000 potential customers will result in 10,000 people not remembering you”
“it's not the product itself that should be remarkable. It's something peripheral to what people buy. In people-speak, you can change how you package, deliver or sell your product.”
“We're all big bags of emotion and our buying decisions are made with emotion.”
“Instead of focusing on your service, make your prospects feel seen. Let them know that reaching out to you is the solution they’re looking for. Make it clear that you're here not to sell products but to solve problems. Your customers will reward you by spreading the word about how fascinating your business is.”
“only 3% of prospects are ready to buy immediately. For their part, 7% of them are open to buying. The other 30% would like to purchase your product, but not now.”
What It Takes - Stephen A. Schwarzman
“No one person, however smart, can solve every problem. But an army of smart people talking openly with one another will.”
“It’s as easy to do something big as it is to do something small.”
“one consensus everyone should reach about you is that of excellence. Even in niches of business that play host to all manner of shady vices, you should set yourself apart to attain excellence through forthrightness and hard work.”
How to Be an Adult in Relationships - David Richo, PhD
“David Richo defines love as giving and receiving the 5 A’s: attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing.”
“mindfulness is an avenue to give others the 5 A’s of true love, respect, regard, and support.”
“Buddhist wisdom claims that nature has calibrated the heart, so it is never permanently fulfilled.”
“Mature adults seek only about 25% of their needs from their partners. The other 75% they get from themselves, friends, family, career, and hobbies.”
“Most people think of love as a feeling, but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present.”
“Without even knowing it, you can treat your partner worse if you carry unexpressed claims against them in your soul.”
“The fear of abandonment is the opposite of engulfment. It is the fear that you will not survive emotionally if your partner leaves you.
This fear typically results from losing attention, appreciation, and affection. It will help if you surround yourself with friends, hobbies, and pleasant things that support your emotional state.
If you feel a foothold that is not concentrated on your partner, it will reduce the anxiety of being abandoned.”
“Infidelity also triggers the fears of engulfment and abandonment in both partners. You can overcome or significantly reduce these fears by using the Triple-A approach:
• Admit the fear.
• Allow yourself to feel it.
• Act as if you are not afraid.”
“The opposite of ego is cooperative love, where partners are concerned with how to make their relationship work.”
“It is inevitable for every relationship to end one way or the other. When you enter a relationship, always have it at the back of your mind that someone will leave first, no matter how long it takes. Doing so will help you prepare for the inevitable grief.”
“ by losing the F.A.C.E. of the inflated ego — fear, attachment, control, and entitlement — you can become the kind of person your partner is grateful to spend the rest of their lives with.”
How to be Fine - Jolenta Greenberg, Kristen Meinzer
“Within the book, Kralik writes 365 “thank you” notes to himself, so Kristen decided to give it a try for herself to see if it helped to make her more grateful for all the things she has in her life”
“For a period of two weeks, try writing down one thing you’re grateful for every single day. After the two weeks are over, review your posts. Do you feel a greater sense of gratitude?”
“Everyone has a primary love language and a secondary one.”
“Jolenta realized that her husband’s primary love language is to vocalize a good time and show it externally,”
“the Economides family managed to do with very little money. For the first 12 years they were married, the couple lived on an income of $35,000 per year and during that time they paid off their home, bought another twice the size and had several cars.
They did all of this with cash and never attempted to open up credit accounts. The book teaches you how they did it, through shopping tricks, avoiding debt, etc.”
“Did you know? Spending on technology alone hit $1.69 trillion in 2019. That’s a lot of iPhones and laptops!”
“Kondo mentions that if you own too much “stuff”, you’re going to clutter up your mind and become down. However, if you have less and keep only the things you actually use and need, you’ll feel lighter and happier within yourself.”
““Pantsdrunk” is a Finnish concept of self care. Within this, you don't leave your house, you simply relax in your comfortable clothes, preferably your underwear and do whatever you want to do.”
“Did you know? The definition of self care is “the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health”.”
“The Miracle Morning” by Hal Elrod tells us that the top 5% of the population are successful because they get up early and focus the first hour or two of the day to self development. This could be sitting in silence and reflection, using affirmations, exercising or visualization”
“society tends to place favor upon those who rise early and work towards being productive early in the day.”
“everyone has a miracle hour, that one hour or two a day when you always seem to crank out your best work and deepest thoughts with ease.”
“Lying is a choice, but blaming your lack of success or lack of happiness on an event or problem is really a result of your negative self-talk and sentiments. Learn to understand them and overcome them.”
“Identify why you speak to yourself in a negative way about a particular situation or problem in your life. Unpick it and try and understand more. By doing that, you can move past it.”
“Did you know? The definition of forgive is tp stop feeling angry or resentful towards someone for an offense, flaw, or mistake.”
“identify the area of your life which you feel you could benefit from a little help, then find a bestselling self-help title to explore the area a little more.”
Why We Get Fat - Gary Taubes
“When insulin levels are high, we gain weight.”
“Increased insulin levels result in the accumulation of fat in our fat tissues”
“The animal doesn't eat too much because it's hungry; it eats too much because it's fat. This simply means that the fatter we get, the more we eat. Contrary to the belief that eating too much causes obesity, fatness is the primary cause of binge-eating. In this case, the cause and effect are inverted.”
“All diets that result in weight loss do so on one basis and one basis only: They reduce circulating levels of insulin; they create and prolong the negative stimulus of insulin deficiency.”
“Consider your adipose tissue to be a wallet rather than a savings or retirement account. Each meal makes you bigger, and the longer you wait between meals, the thinner you become”
“biochemists regard fructose to be the most “lipogenic” carbohydrate. While fructose may not have an immediate impact on blood sugar and insulin levels, it is most likely a long-term cause of insulin resistance. This resistance may lead to more calories being stored as fat.”
“When we consume green leaf carbohydrates, our blood sugar levels stay quite low. They produce a far lower insulin response and, as a result, are less obese.”
“The “glycemic index,” or how our blood sugar reacts to various meals, is a good indicator of how our insulin will react. The aim is to decrease the insulin we produce and the fat we acquire by lowering the glycemic index of our meals.”
“If you are trying to lose fat, go on a carbohydrates-restricted diet and replace these carbs with a protein rich diet for four weeks.”
His Needs, Her Needs - Willard F. Harley Jr.
“men can learn to be affectionate by making the following a habit:
• Kiss and hug your wife daily just to communicate love to her.
• Surprise her with gifts often.
• Help do her chores when you can.
• Think of creative ways to do things that communicate love to her.”
“most infidelity recovery experts agree that it takes an average of two years for intimacy and trust to be re-established after a partner cheats”
“Recreational companionship is to men what intimate conversations are to women.”
“When I counsel married couples, I can’t emphasize too strongly what a mistake it can be for spouses to have independent recreational activities”
“Here are some ideas to get your creativity rolling:
• Go on a fishing date.
• Cook a foreign meal together.
• Write love letters to each other.
• Go down memory lane and do something you used to do when you were dating but haven't done in a long while.”
This Is How They Tell Me the World Ends - Nicole Perlroth
“Changchun had researched information about himself online and didn't like what he found. In retaliation, Changchun tried to penalize Google by forcing state-owned Chinese telecommunication companies to cut ties with Google, then orchestrating the contracted cyber-attacks.”
“The ruckus outside London's hospitals on May 12, 2017, was the initial hint that the cyberweapons of Western powers were boomeranging back, and people across the world started ripping their computers out of the wall, but it was too late. The speed of the ransomware was like nothing security researchers had ever seen. As analysts started dissecting the ransomware code, they dubbed the attacks WannaCry — because of a tiny snippet left in the code: “.wncry.” ”
“The WannaCry attack wasn’t some collective intelligence triumph; it was an attack that could have held millions of computers and internet-enabled equipment across the globe captive. But it took the efforts of a single hacker to code a way out of the pandemonium.”
“Some tips to help keep safe while using Internet-enabled technology are: • Keep your privacy settings on”
Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? - Dr. Julie Smith
“If we try not to have certain thoughts then we are, by default, already thinking them.”
The Millionaire Next Door - Thomas J. Stanley, PhD, William D. Danko, PhD
“A couple cannot accumulate wealth if one of its members is a hyperconsumer.”
“There's no end to the things you can spend money on, so learn to be disciplined.”
“most millionaires are self-employed professionals or business owners. People who work for themselves are four times more likely to be millionaires than those who work for others.”
Atlas of the Heart - Brené Brown, PhD
“When the world feels too much, we stray toward overwhelm or anxiety. A failure came our way? Then, our next stop might be the shame station. If the world seems full of wonder and mystery, we gravitate toward the lands of curiosity. And when wonderful people surround us, it's definitely time to visit the place of gratitude for some time.”
“overwhelm is a feeling of being flooded or swamped by too much information, too many tasks, or too many responsibilities. It can leave us exhausted and unable to cope, and it often arises when we feel like we don't have enough time or resources to manage everything on our plates. Anxiety is a feeling similar to overwhelm, a sense of unease or worry. A variety of situations or circumstances can trigger it. This emotion can manifest as physical symptoms, such as heart palpitations or sweating. Negative thoughts and beliefs about ourselves and our abilities may also accompany it.”
“When we encounter something profound or overwhelming, we feel awe. This emotion can inspire a sense of wonder, humility, and reverence. Awe can help us feel more connected to the world around us.”
“Anguish is an intense emotional pain arising from experiences such as loss, rejection, or trauma. This emotion often triggers hopelessness and despair. However, acknowledging and expressing our anguish is essential in the healing process.”
“love — a complex emotion encompassing a range of feelings, including tenderness, compassion, and affection. It is a feeling of deep connection and attachment experienced in various relationships, including romantic partnerships, family bonds, and friendships. Love is often characterized by a sense of warmth, safety, and security, and it can bring immense joy and fulfillment to our lives”
The Myth of Normal - Gabor Maté, MD
“A low-paid and demanding job is even worse. According to Australian scientists, those who get stuck in a toxic working environment put their mental health at risk.”
“People who hesitate to have children as they fear passing on any generational addiction can sigh with relief. No gene can trigger an obsession with alcohol, drugs, or sex. A lack of love, acceptance, and harmony pushes people into these extremes”
Not Nice - Dr. Aziz Gazipura
“Many forcibly restrict themselves and do more to please others instead of doing what is best for them. These people believe that this is what it means to be nice, but they aren't being very nice to themselves”
How to Talk To Anyone - Leil Lowndes
“Don't give a quick smile when exchanging pleasantries with someone. Instead, look at the person's face for a second. Absorb their persona before giving a big warm smile. A sweet smile like that is more impactful when it comes slower. This way, it has more sincerity and credibility and is personalized.”
“Become noticeable within reason. When out, carry or wear something unusual. Strangers will find a reason to approach you as something curious catches their attention.”
“if you want to have a good conversation with another person, nothing can come between them, which is why they don’t eat at a party. You have to choose between eating or mingling and never do both.”
“Never remind people of the moments they are not shining.”
Mi-au placut mult si biografiile sumarizate de Headway dar nu am ramas ceva anume cu ele, si nu mi-as prelungi abonamentul doar in speranta ca vor mai aparea si altele. Si infograficele lor cu sumare de carti sunt foarte bune, dar se gasesc si gratuite pe Pinterest.
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