When your loved one dies in a hospital they give you two hours to let the system know if you're "happy" with the treatment he received. And if you're not, that means an autopsy will have to be made. So if you want to complain about hospital germs you have to accept some things which are very hard to even think about. This is probably one of the reasons not much has been done about the bacteria-riddled hospitals.

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They say the mind goes peacefully, even if the body doesn't. Like when you faint and convulsions might happen. From the outside it's an agitated state, but your mind goes to a quiet place. 

In the case of old age, energy gradually decreases, and you sleep more, and more, until you fall asleep forever. There's a book "With the end in mind" by Kathryn Mannix that goes into all of this and more.

Dying is a part of life, not just because it will happen to all of us, but also because 75% of us will continue to live a long period of time while dying. But this gives us time to put our things in order, maybe live what we've always wanted to live. 

Ill people are angelic and their wishes should be granted with joy. This will help them but also yourself, after they are gone.

Always do your best to go to funerals, light candles and bring flowers wreaths, as it shows the family their loved one had many friends and that his memory will be cherished by many people. 

The more memories you have with a person, the harder it will be. But as time goes by it will get better.

Pills can help, therapy can help, do whatever and be however you feel helps.

Lastly, remember, no, it's not your fault.

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People turn into memories we'll have with us as long as we want.